Adam and I talk a lot lately about what the baby will be like, and things that we will do with it. We are so excited to have a third person, with its own personality and quirks, interjecting itself into our life. When I think about what I want for the baby, I am kind of surprised by my list. I thought my expectations would be much higher.
I really don't care if it is a boy or a girl. Fortunately, there are so few limits placed on us in life now based on our gender that this baby will be afforded equal opportunities to succeed. I think that every person has a balance of masculine and feminine qualities, and I hope the baby can find a comfortable way to express itself.
I know that you are just supposed to wish that your child is healthy, but what about all of the children that are not born with perfect health or with challenges? Are they somehow a disappointment? Of course I wish that our baby is healthy, because I don't want it to experience any pain, but we will deal whatever is given to us.
I don't care if the baby is cute or pretty or kind of funny looking. I will love it no matter what, and to me it will be the most beautiful child I've ever seen.
I don't care if it is really smart or not such a great student. I want it to have a love of learning and a curious nature, because that is what makes life interesting. But he or she will be free to learn at their own pace.
I don't care if it is gay or straight or somewhere in between. I don't want my child to experience discrimination, but fortunately the world is changing at a very rapid pace. I do however, want it to find someone to love and to share a life with, who loves them back just as much or even more.
I don't care if the baby looks like me, acts like me or that we share the same interests. Frankly, a break from my own self absorption will be a nice change of pace!
I do hope that the baby will find a way to show compassion to people who deserve it, and to those that might not deserve it. Sometimes it is very hard to tell the difference because we don't know the whole story.
I do hope that the baby will know that there is always someone less fortunate than itself, no matter how bad the situation seems.
I do hope the baby is able to give and receive love freely, with no strings attached.
That's about it. Oh, one more...that it never forgets to call its mother