Monday, September 25, 2006

Endless Possibilities...

Adam and I talk a lot lately about what the baby will be like, and things that we will do with it. We are so excited to have a third person, with its own personality and quirks, interjecting itself into our life. When I think about what I want for the baby, I am kind of surprised by my list. I thought my expectations would be much higher.

I really don't care if it is a boy or a girl. Fortunately, there are so few limits placed on us in life now based on our gender that this baby will be afforded equal opportunities to succeed. I think that every person has a balance of masculine and feminine qualities, and I hope the baby can find a comfortable way to express itself.

I know that you are just supposed to wish that your child is healthy, but what about all of the children that are not born with perfect health or with challenges? Are they somehow a disappointment? Of course I wish that our baby is healthy, because I don't want it to experience any pain, but we will deal whatever is given to us.

I don't care if the baby is cute or pretty or kind of funny looking. I will love it no matter what, and to me it will be the most beautiful child I've ever seen.

I don't care if it is really smart or not such a great student. I want it to have a love of learning and a curious nature, because that is what makes life interesting. But he or she will be free to learn at their own pace.

I don't care if it is gay or straight or somewhere in between. I don't want my child to experience discrimination, but fortunately the world is changing at a very rapid pace. I do however, want it to find someone to love and to share a life with, who loves them back just as much or even more.

I don't care if the baby looks like me, acts like me or that we share the same interests. Frankly, a break from my own self absorption will be a nice change of pace!

I do hope that the baby will find a way to show compassion to people who deserve it, and to those that might not deserve it. Sometimes it is very hard to tell the difference because we don't know the whole story.

I do hope that the baby will know that there is always someone less fortunate than itself, no matter how bad the situation seems.

I do hope the baby is able to give and receive love freely, with no strings attached.

That's about it. Oh, one more...that it never forgets to call its mother

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

WHAT CAN I SAY? I DO NOT RESPOND TO ALL OF THE BLOGS BUT HAD TOO PUT MY 2 CENTS INTO THIS ONE. YOU ARE THE GREATEST AND THE BEST AND LUCKY IS THE LITTLE BOY OR LITTLE GIRL WHO HAS YOU FOR A MOTHER. I AM SO PROUD OF YOU AS I'M SURE YOUR MOM IS. SHE SURE DID A GREAT JOB RAISING YOU. I LOVE YOU, ADAM AND THE NEW BABY SO MUCH AND YOUR HAPPINESS IS MY HAPPINESS. THANK YOU FOR BEING YOU.

LOVE, MARLENE

Anonymous said...

Beautifuly said - and when Baby Schnell is here you will realize even more that every word you said here is true. What a Mother & Father ALWAYS wish for is that their child is happy with whatever path they choose in life - and that they call their Mother - oops, gotta go call MY mom!
CJ

Anonymous said...

Most of what our children learn about life and how to treat others is by the example set by the people in their lives. Your baby has a good start with you two as its parents. You two are also surrounded by people who love you both and will love your baby even more.
Mom

Anonymous said...

Vanessa, I am so happy for you. You are so close! You will be the best mommy and both you and your baby are so lucky! I cannot wait to hear the news. xo Lynn

Anonymous said...

I'm crying...beautifully expressed. What lucky baby!
Love,
Mer